We all have doubts. It’s human nature. But our doubts can begin to frame our mindsets and our actions, especially when we focus on our negative thoughts longer than we should.
“I messed up again. I’m not just good enough. I’ll never be happy. I am such a loser.” This was just a taste of what my thought-process was like. Years of abuse and trauma can affect you in the deepest ways. Even down to the core of who you are. It can shape the way you look at yourself, how you react to situations or conflicts, and even how you make decisions.
Every failed relationship set me back. Every mistake sent me on a spiral. Depression set in. I began to see people as my enemies. I could not trust anyone. I had trouble trusting my own family. If we fail to recognize these thoughts that lead to actions, we will find ourselves constantly going down a rabbit hole of untruths, and sooner or later, it will begin to affect our lives and the people in our lives.
The biggest battle has been the battle of my mind. I did not know any other way until I met Jesus Christ and He started teaching me a new way. He has sent me on a journey of unlearning these old ways of thinking. When you have an automatic negative thought you can tell yourself, “I doubt it.” You don’t have to believe the thoughts in your head. You don’t have to succumb to them. You can choose to doubt your doubts.
The Bible tells us to bring “every thought into captivity to the obedience of Christ” in second Corinthians chapter 10 and verse 5. In verse 4 it says that the “weapons of our warfare are not carnal, but mighty in God for pulling down strongholds.” The apostle Paul is telling us that as Christians we are not called to fight carnally, but spiritually. So, what do our spiritual weapons look like? Paul listed them in Ephesians chapter 6. They are the belt of truth, the breastplate of righteousness, the shoes of the gospel, the shield of faith, the helmet of salvation, and the sword of the Spirit.
How do you use your spiritual weapons against your thoughts? First, you must become self-aware. Pray and ask God to make you aware of these untruths that you keep replaying in your mind constantly. Then choose not to go down that rabbit hole. When that first thought comes, “I’m a failure. I will never have a good relationship” you need to first recognize this as a LIE. Literally tell yourself, “I doubt that.” Say it out loud! It is not coming from God. There isn’t a single place in the Bible that you will find God speaking to His people this way. When you take something captive, you take hold of it. Take hold of that thought. Now you must make it obedient to Christ.
Every piece of armor in the Armor of God takes us back to God’s word. In order to make that negative thought obedient to Christ you need to replace it with the truth. If you are not spending time in God’s word daily, and in some cases, multiple times a day, you will find this difficult to accomplish. Friends, I urge you to read your bible! Meditate on it! Practice memorizing your favorite verses. I know this can be intimidating or overwhelming, but you can start small. Pick one verse. Just one. Start with 2 Corinthians 10:5. Remember, you are not alone. I still struggle with these thoughts every day. It takes practice. And when you can’t get yourself out of that rabbit hole, that’s when you need your friends. You need that one friend who will reel you out of that dark hole. Someone who will speak the truth over you and pray with you and for you when you cannot even get the words out.
Here are some practical ways you can overcome your negative thoughts. Speak these truths over yourself when you have any automatic negative thought. As you begin, you may realize how unnatural this may seem to you. But don’t give up. By faith, you can do this.
- I am safe now under the shelter of the Most High and the shadow of the Almighty.
- I am fully known and fully loved by God. I can be honest about my past and not be ashamed.
- Oh Lord, have mercy on me, a sinner, and cleanse me from all unrighteousness.
- I can be used to change the trajectory of my future and make an impact on future generations in my family and in my community.
- I can choose to see the invisible and look ahead to my eternal reward.
- I don’t have carry on the sins of my past, my parents, my grandparents, and my great-grandparents.
- Not by my might, but by FAITH and with the help of God, I CAN _____________.
If you don’t have a friend like this, contact Hope Restored. This is the purpose of us being here. We want to counsel women who feel alone. If you find yourself struggling with the aftermath of your abuse and trauma, send us a message. Our heart is to disciple and counsel you so you can find hope and healing through this journey.
“It was by faith that Moses, when he grew up, refused to be called the son of Pharaoh’s daughter. He chose to share the oppression of God’s people instead of enjoying the fleeting pleasures of sin. He thought it was better to suffer for the sake of Christ than to own the treasures of Egypt, for he was looking ahead to his great reward. It was by faith that Moses left the land of Egypt, not fearing the king’s anger. He kept right on going because he kept his eyes on the One who is invisible.” – Hebrews 11:24-27 NLT
“Don’t copy the behavior and customs of this world, but let God transform you into a new person by changing the way you think. Then you will learn to know God’s will for you, which is good and pleasing and perfect.” – Romans 12:2 NLT
If you have not claimed Jesus Christ as your Lord and Savior, you can do so today. All He requires is faith. Pray to Him and confess that you are a sinner and in need of a Savior and invite Him into your heart. “If you openly declare that Jesus is Lord and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved.” – Romans 10:9 NLT